I went to a seminar a while ago on the invitation of a friend. A guy was speaking about winning in life (and other bullshit self-help stuff). He said that he never lost at anything, that he was first everywhere he went. Okay good, a seminar by a narcissist, things could be worse. At one point that charlatan said that we should never read about losers, that they don’t matter. That was too much, I felt anger rising in me. I had to calm down. I completely disagree and here is why.
It’s like saying that we shouldn’t learn about Napoleon I because he lost in a crushing defeat at Waterloo. Same goes for the Tsar Nicolas II in Russia that was the victim of the October Revolution. Anyone remember Spartacus? The gladiator started a civil war before being defeated by Crassus and his Roman legion.
What about people who learn from defeat. I’ve talked about GSP bouncing from his worst defeat into victory. We can think of Donald Trump who has filed for corporate bankruptcy four times and went back on his feet each time. I could go on and give you 100 more examples.
I think we should never look down at people who have tried, who have risk it all. We should avoid the tendency to see things in black or white. Reality is more complex than that. Don’t look down at the defeated. They could give your most valuable life teaching.